The extraverted thinkers (Te) of our world are a lot like Rabbit from A.A. Milne’s Winnie-the-Pooh. Rabbits, like all personality types, come with their own joys and challenges. That’s why I produced Episode 11. And that’s why I created this infographic for parents training an extraverted thinker.
Personality can seem an overwhelming topic if left in the abstract, theoretical realm. But when a parent understands the why behind what their child is doing or not doing, and learns to apply some basic do’s and don’ts in their day-to-day, the knowledge becomes a powerful training tool.
So, if you are the parent of a Rabbit, take a few minutes to read through the infographic and then download a printable version. Post it on your refrigerator or bulletin board for a daily reminder. Share it with a friend who is raising their own extraverted thinker!
Raising a Rabbit successfully is all about control — they’re built for it, they push for it, and they will not have it forced upon them. With Rabbits, the apron strings must be intentionally, thoughtfully, and gradually loosened.
Ambivert. This is a word that frustrates me like very few words do. It is a buzzword used to describe a person who likes time with people and time alone. Why does it frustrate me? Because it’s unnecessary, inaccurate, and damaging. Unnecessary because the truth is we all enjoy some time with people and some time alone. That’s normal. We don’t need a word to describe it. Inaccurate because introversion and extraversion mean a lot more than whether or not a person prefers people-time or alone-time. I’ll explain this in more detail momentarily. Damaging because this is the starting line for identifying a person’s personality type, which only leads to confusion rather than clarity. And if personality is confusing, it’s unusable. So what’s the point?
At some point during 4 years of college, and perhaps another 2 years of graduate school, there is a marriage, the beginning of a career, and a pregnancy. With the arrival of that new little life, the real work begins. You are a mom. You trade in your young, trendy professional wardrobe for wash-and-wear comfort. (Maybe those in the medical profession are onto something with the practicality of a closet filled entirely with scrubs.)
In a rare moment of mental clarity brought on by the perfect balance of a full night’s sleep and a great cup of coffee, or 3, you might realize that the typical job description of mom includes a92-hour work week — during which you fulfill at least 10 different job roles. You are a housekeeper, day-care center director, cook, director of public relations and communications, senior laundry attendant, janitor, facilities manager, van driver, chief executive officer and psychologist. A mom. You are on-call 24/7 with little time off regardless of illness, holidays, or vacations. It takes a salary of $165K a year for anyone else to do this job. You are doing it for free. Mom.
And if you’re listening to this podcast, at some point you probably decided you didn’t have enough to do. You decided to homeschool. More hours. More responsibility. Same pay. Homeschool mom. What is wrong with you?